Category: Adulting

Adulting: Accepting Presumed Immaturity By Others

Many times people can perceive that we have something “wrong” with us. This is just not for autistics alone, but for many with invisible disabilities and challenges, As disabled individuals, it can tear at us inside when others treat us as less mature than we know we are. We must be the stronger ones in the situation and not react to their signs of immaturity or fear because of their assumptions and fear.

Adulting: Investing in Life’s Essentials

Being an autistic adult, one may have difficulty understanding that life’s essentials are in fact essentials and require investment before that device or book that may want. Even if we are not living independently, there are essentials we may need in life to function that require us to spend money that we otherwise wouldn’t want to because we may think it is senseless, however it is an essential item and sometimes it is good to do so.

Adulting: Maturity Immaturity

When am autistic individual ages there is a great uncertainty as to whether they can be mature. We as human being all have the tendency to play the immaturity card at times and if we have the skills to be mature, it can backfire if we act immature in a setting that we cannot tolerate or get frustrated with.

Adulting: Caring and Accepting Our Choices

This Christmas has been one of the better Christmases for me. It made me feel better that there are people out there that actually care about me. Yet, in weeks past, I had become too self-centered and accepting that I didn’t make the choice to do my share and be a friend when people reach out to me. You see, to have a friend isn’t just about getting what you want, it is also giving what you have to them too, that is what makes it a true friendship.

Adulting: Being Influenced

It is often said that autistics are easily influenced. While that may be the case for many, it is not in all. Sadly, for many autistics, they don’t get to have much of an external feel of what is outside of their safe space. I also know of many autistics because of where they lie within the spectrum are unable to do so.

Adulting: Managing Unpleasantness

Fallingwater in Spring

As autistics, sometimes we hear things that we don’t care to hear like being told to do things we don’t want to do. For many years I would become a spoiled little brat and act out because these things were not the way that I wanted them to be. I had to learn that part of adulting is learning to accept the unpleasant and being able to tolerate those elements by using coping skills to manage their unpleasantness.

Adulting: Trigger Tolerance

Autistics when outside of their comfort zone face elements that can easily trigger behaviors. These triggers and behaviors vary from individuals for several factors. I, personally, am proud of how well I have become able more recently to be equipped with the ability to manage my risk of being triggered by things that I have been known to go into various behaviors from.

Adulting: Setting Expectations

Being Autistic and growing up with so many struggles, but eventually the good comes out and you experience the good qualities of what being autistic is known for. Swinging between these two factors can play tricks on your mind, specifically your self-esteem and knowing that life is worth living. Many times it can be so hard to see the good in yourself even though those that support you can see it clearly because they have been through the trenches with you.

Adulting: Our Inner Voice

One of the things that helps me when combating some issues related to my autism is to talk things through. It helps me solve issues that I may not have the direct answer for or what I need to solve something that may be difficult in my eyes. It is one of those qualities that many autistics know is intact but don’t use it in the same way as typically developing people do.