Adulting: Accepting Presumed Immaturity By Others

Many times people can perceive that we have something “wrong” with us. This is just not for autistics alone, but for many with invisible disabilities and challenges, As disabled individuals, it can tear at us inside when others treat us as less mature than we know we are. We must be the stronger ones in the situation and not react to their signs of immaturity or fear because of their assumptions and fear.

You Can’t Get There By Staying Here

2022 has been an exciting year. I feel in a really good place mentally and seem to be grounded really well in many ways that I haven’t been since my first independence experience. Now that I worked out many of the kinks that I had to discover on my own, it is now time to get real and grow from where I left off over three years ago.

Adulting: Maturity Immaturity

When am autistic individual ages there is a great uncertainty as to whether they can be mature. We as human being all have the tendency to play the immaturity card at times and if we have the skills to be mature, it can backfire if we act immature in a setting that we cannot tolerate or get frustrated with.

Concentrating on COVID: No More Fear in 2022

For almost two years I have lived in a continual state of fear of doing things outside of my safe space. I have taken each and every precaution that was made available to me. I believed the words of our government leaders. And while I do believe there is some merit to the information that is being delivered to us, I have to live a little and start 2022 by not living in total fear of the COVID-19 Pandemic.

Adulting: Caring and Accepting Our Choices

This Christmas has been one of the better Christmases for me. It made me feel better that there are people out there that actually care about me. Yet, in weeks past, I had become too self-centered and accepting that I didn’t make the choice to do my share and be a friend when people reach out to me. You see, to have a friend isn’t just about getting what you want, it is also giving what you have to them too, that is what makes it a true friendship.

Adulting: Being Influenced

It is often said that autistics are easily influenced. While that may be the case for many, it is not in all. Sadly, for many autistics, they don’t get to have much of an external feel of what is outside of their safe space. I also know of many autistics because of where they lie within the spectrum are unable to do so.

The Importance of “Me” Time

As I am writing this blog post, I am doing so on my scheduled mental health day. What I once thought was something silly, then when I originally scheduled one almost two years ago that turned tragic finally after a very long time has come to fruition. With the ability to understand that things that are part of my normally scheduled routine are on what I think is a schedule, I am learning that they can wait on a day like today.

Adulting: Trigger Tolerance

Autistics when outside of their comfort zone face elements that can easily trigger behaviors. These triggers and behaviors vary from individuals for several factors. I, personally, am proud of how well I have become able more recently to be equipped with the ability to manage my risk of being triggered by things that I have been known to go into various behaviors from.

Sometimes Enough is Enough

There are times when you have just had enough. You cannot be the solver to everyone’s problems nor can you be the supporter for them whenever you are unable to hold your own mental health grounding. I must realize that I need to take care of my mental health and accept the fact that I need to be assertive and fight for what I need to do to take care of myself.