There are many autistic people like me that want to be seen and wanted. They often want connection to other humans in whatever way that is possible. This can be very challenging. It requires an understanding of social norms, pragmatics, or just how things happen in this world. The world in general can be a very scary place. Autistic people face more vulnerability than ever, which can make things more challenging. Many activities that neurotypical counterparts do are often misunderstood. But with the proper education and technique, we can also form good friendships. It is important to do what is right by the people who do us right.

Indeed we can feel lonely as autistic folks and thrive to be connected, valued and heard. But sometimes that happens for the wrong reasons. Others do not see the same in us. They often place their own needs above anything else. It can make us as autistic people very vulnerable. We do things that are very risky and sometimes dangerous. This is just to feel wanted and accepted. Sometimes this is by absolute strangers, just for our own gratification.

There must be a concrete understanding of the dangers out there in the world. It is also crucial to know what is acceptable and not acceptable. There are situations that make us realize our discomfort in doing things we normally avoid. This often occurs when seeking attention and feeling wanted. These desires can lead us to act for reasons different from our intentions.

When you find the right friend or connection, you will find it for the right reasons. You need a concrete understanding of boundaries that are acceptable to you. Pinpoint what is not acceptable and what is totally off limits. It can be silly to act this way. Believe me, you will eventually know that things can sometimes be too much for you. Your emotions can spread to those who love you when they become overwhelming. You must understand that there is a way to be around those you meet. It takes both doing things for each other and making compromises and sacrifices to make it work.

There can be a lot of need to just have someone that is a “friend.” But there also needs to be an understanding of what a real friend is. It’s important to differentiate between a true friend and someone you just connect with online or meet occasionally. It can be hard to understand that not everyone is your friend either and has your best interest. Sometimes people want to take advantage of you for their gratification. They do not have your best interest at heart. It is crucial to recognize this. You need to know when to back away from something that seems dangerous or too good to be true.

In the end, you will find the right combination of friends to grow your friend circle. This will guarantee a healthy balance of people who are beneficial for you. That is what matters most. It allows you to be the best person you can be. You will not become any less of a human in real life.