In the past, there were many times when I felt negative. I would focus on the problems in my life. I often would neglect the things that were going good for me in my life. I wanted others to feel my misery, so I pointed out what I didn’t like or thought was wrong. Yet, I would be the first to complain when others brought me down into their misery. I was unwilling to take the day in stride and look at the blessing that came my way.

Granted, there can be things that can make life uncomfortable and unpleasant. But when you make it the center of attention, it can bring others down. It has no purpose other than ruining the day. It harms the connection you make with others, which they sometimes do not need. We don’t always know the situation that others experiencing and that can bring us down. That doesn’t help us or the other person navigate the day that we must go through.

I have often learned the hard way about being the negative one. I point out issues I believe need attention due to a sense of danger. I think something bad will happen because my brain is wired that way. I think that just because something has the potential to happen, it can and will happen. In fact, that is not always the case. Sometimes, we need to be brave. By problem solving and using our self-advocacy skills, we can make sure that our fears are addressed. We should seek the best possible solution.

Often what we think, we believe. It consumes us so deeply. We often hyperfocus on it. We want it to communicate our feelings to others. This wish can ruin not only our day but also the day of others. They not need that negativity in their lives. There’s often no intention to disrupt your day or theirs. This affect people around us unnecessarily. Control what you can manage. Let others handle what they can do. Allow things to happen as they will. This way, you allow yourself to breathe easier. You learn to handle things as best as you can.

It hurts people when you bring them and yourself down in your misery. This behavior can sometimes put them off. It can set the tone for the whole day and affect their perception of you. They not want to be part of your life. All you do is bring them down for whatever reason. There were times in my life that I often wanted to put others down for my own self-gratification. I thought it would make me feel good about myself. Eventually, I learned that things improve significantly when you accept life as it is. This acceptance helps no matter what is happening. You can’t often change what is going to happen in the course of the day. Nevertheless, you can make the best of what you are going through together.