Often times the hardest part of autism that can be difficult to manage is the anger. The cause of anger can often not be determined. It can be hard for the individual to control. They struggle to know where it originates from. Over time, I have learned to manage my anger better. I do this by identifying the emotions I am feeling. This helps me work at putting my mind at ease.

I have often been angry at others. My anger has caused them to be concerned about me. It has also made them scared of me. I had to learn the hard way that things like medication can go a long way in helping these issues. Besides that, I too have to do my part. I need to learn to communicate what I am feeling. I must become better at dealing with my emotions in a healthy manner. This will prevent it from reaching the breaking point it has in the past.

There is a reality that for me there are times when anger would want to be the solution. But it takes knowing that it’s not always the solution to making things better. In fact, it can only make things worse. I have worked hard on myself. Choosing to react to situations in an immature way is regressive in nature. There is also the reality that I do not have as much latitude as I did in the past. There is the potential for severe consequences. These consequences would be quite detrimental if something like an outburst happened.

It is often said that behind certain behaviors lies communication by an autistic individual. The reality is that I am well-educated. I have the means to communicate properly. It does not have to resort to behaving in an inappropriate manner. I know much better. Even when we become the most stressed, we often lose the skills that we work the hardest to learn. It has taken me a long time to reinforce and embrace the knowledge given to me. I now understand that inappropriate behaviors have real-life consequences. These consequences are not desirable for me.

It also takes knowing that, in reality, being overly angry is not constructive. Such anger does not solve the problem that I am experiencing. It only makes things worse. I have shown my hard work to those who know me. They see what I have done to get to where I am today. Through many rough experiences, I have learned the hard way that some things are hard to recover from. There is so much more to life than what is angering me at a given moment. Sometimes, taking a breather from the whole situation helps. Revisiting the issue later, when I am in a better frame of mind, can be beneficial.

Over time I have learned that anger is not the answer to everything. Not every situation is worth expressing anger in an inappropriate way. It takes evaluating the situation and realizing its worth in weight and having a calculated response.