In gaining my skills to regroup for the next chapter in my life, I have made the decision to do a blog series on Adulting. The fifth installment I have chosen to write about is caring about others.
So this week has been another okay week, behaviorally. For the most part, I’ve been good no major incidences and nothing major going on in my life. However, I recently learned that my father has a serious health issue and it has sadly opened my eyes in regards to my relationship with him, While it hasn’t been optimal, this fathers’ day I made a commitment to work on things in my life that could make it easier for both of us, thus resulting in less arguments between us. While in many instances I am indeed improving, there’s others that I continue to struggle with from time to time.
With the discovery of this new onset with my father, it has brought to my attention of myself being selfish. Without a doubt, I know I am and as a result it has taken many nasty turns in relationships on all ends. For the majority of my life, all I had to think about was me. Then gradually other people and things came into the picture like work, day programs, relationships and so forth. Nonetheless, I would continue to ignore this negative trait in myself and blame everyone else for it.
I have indeed realized as some recent failed friendships along with my father’s recent health issue that I need to get my act together and do something, not because I want to be a bullhead and not do it because its not convenient for me and because it may be a bother to me, but it is the proper and right thing to do. In the end, it you will feel happier about it and realize that you did the right thing. Many people we are not guaranteed tomorrow, therefore, we should make the best we can of the day at hand.
Now, I can get argumentative about a lot of things, especially when I am approached in a negative overtone, which my father cannot help. He’s not a bad person, in fact he would do anything for me, it’s just the way he was raised and there’s nothing that can be done about it. I have came to the understanding that he’ll never change and I need to focus on what is right and what I need to do.
In all do respect, thinking about others needs should be paramount, especially if you want a relationship that is genuine and long lasting. Sometimes you want to be all about yourself, and sometimes you need a break from the hectic life you lead. But that person that is in need needs you and most of the time, they wouldn’t seek out that help or advice unless they really wanted it, therefore it should be respected because you don’t know when that moment with that person might be the last time you see them.