Adulting: Consistency

One of the traits that many think autistics have is the need to be consistent. I can honestly say that this is a complete myth because I am definitely not consistent in many things that I need to do in life. Sometimes it can affect my mental health along with many other environmental factors.

While it may seem that I always have it together in many facets, there are many things that many individuals have programmed as part of their routines that I am not consistent with. I know these things need to be completed on a consistent basis as they are part of the prerequisites of being an adult that lives consistently, yet I struggle in doing so. I am not lazy. When my mind is programmed that these essential tasks are a priority, I follow through with them. 

When I do not do them and their effects are displayed, it can be perceived as if I am lazy or a slob. When people would tell me these things, because I was many times until I lived in my current home and was raised to a higher standard, I would deeply regret that I was unable to do these things and as a result would not seek the support and help that I needed in getting needed assistance.

Learning to accept that I do not have to be so rigid (another myth of autism) has made my mental state better, yet I know I have to perform essential tasks to stay mentally well. I have been better in doing so and am not as harsh as I once was when I make a mistake, but I am learning to be myself and know that what is needed is essential to being independent. Likewise doing routine chores is equally essential and I know doing so will give me a sense of joy and accomplishment. 

I can honestly say that being consistent is a key to being well in many ways. At times, the palate can be full and I do not want to do the things such as upkeep of the home and my person because of issues with sensory overload or the inability to prioritize or focus my thoughts on those tasks. I know that breaking them down helps, with taking necessary breaks to ease my mind and do the things that I’ve now accepted as part of being neurodivergent. Accepting that I don’t have to hide the needs of being autistic has helped me in the ability to feel confident in using the skills I have learned and if I am struggling or cannot do something, ask for assistance and not be ashamed in doing so.

I know being consistent for a few weeks will pay off eventually with the things that need to be routine embedded in my wireframe. It requires dedication and the willpower of understanding that you have to take care of yourself and the things you have so they do not deteriorate. I want to be proud of who I am and the things I have so I know that doing so will make that happen. Sometimes, accepting the whole package of what you are is essential for having the epiphany of what you know is needed to be down to be that person you need to be. Doing so means that you have to face the rough struggles of getting started, but it too comes with the package and is part of the process of being who you are and what you have.

While the last three years have been like a roller coaster of actions, I am starting to make a landing at the docking station and see the fruits of my labor of keeping the train on the track to get to the docking station. I also have to admit that there’s going to be times that I make mistakes and falter, but I have to accept the fact that I have to learn and grow from those experiences, but also work on prevent them from occurring by striving on working on being consistent so that my life is the one that I deserve and am happy living.

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