We don’t always understand why we are not included in something. We think we should be part of it. We can get upset and feel excluded. We have feelings about not being part of something we thought we would join. Alternatively, we feel we have to do everything. Over the years, I have learned an important lesson. Sometimes we are not included in something due to reasons unknown to us. Other times, it would be an undue hardship if we were part of it.

In the beginning hard feelings can be felt about not being able to be a part of something. But when there are factors that make it more difficult to be part of something, is it really worth it? Is that little or big going to matter in the long term? If the answer is no, then it is best to not make such a fuss about it. Start to let go and accept it for what it is. The reality is we don’t always have the answers. Sometimes, we have to earn the ability and trust. It’s necessary to do the things that we think we need to be a part of.

But then there is part of me that thinks, do I really want to do that? Is that something that I am going to enjoy or feel good about? Is it going to make me miserable? In the end, if it is something that I am not going to enjoy, I need to accept it. If I am not asked, then I also need to accept it. It’s best that I help in my own way.

Granted, exclusion hurts in its own way, but knowing and understanding what you really want to do matters too. Your peace has immense value. Your peace is more important than anything else. It surpasses anything you would get by being part of what you want to be included in. Yes, there are many buzzwords these days about inclusion, unity, and team.

Yet, these words do not always mean everything, even if there is a belief that you should be. Granted, if it’s part of your schedule, then by all means it should be. But if it is something extra, think about whether it’s really worth fighting for. Consider if being part of something is truly necessary. This is especially true if your mind or heart doesn’t want to be involved.

It can be hard to decide what is right and what you actually want. You must look at things from your own perspective. Understand that if it is costing you your peace of mind, it is more expensive. Mental health is more valuable than any compensation you would get, if any. Sometimes you are left out for a reason. You feel hurt. If it wouldn’t make a difference, then why fight it if you are good with it? It is just easier to go with your own flow at times. This approach can be better than making a mountain out of a molehill that seems senseless and pointless.