Throughout my life there have been many things that have to be done. There is the reality of understanding that just because others get things in a way that I do not is a reason to be angry, upset or jealous about things. I have had to accept things for what they are, including the doing of what must be done to make the process complete.

There is a difference between what one believes can happen versus what is reality. I have had to learn to accept the things that are unpleasant or even unwanted. It can seem unfair that we do not have the same opportunities that others have to do things and at times it can be hard to accept that things are the way they are. But it doesn’t change things.

I have had to make up my mind to make the best of the situations that I have to face. I cannot constantly rely on others to bail me out of the things that were set up for me because I may be anxious or struggling with them. If there are no issues with them, then it is important to push through and continue to build the resilience and stamina that I need to build up so I can be the best at the things that I have to do.

The last few years have been hard on me. but they also have taught me a lot about thinking independently and realizing that there is no one that can bail me out of the moments when I do not take the time to stop and think before acting out. There are expectations that need to be followed and there is an understanding that certain things just don’t happen because I have been taught the skills, I need to overcome those challenges.

Yes, there are moments that trigger me, but that is when I have to work my hardest at not losing my composure, taking it slow and accepting things for what they are until I can safely process what is going on. Throughout my life I have had to do things that were hard and challenging and even what could have been the worst thing for me, but I have pushed through and did what I needed to do even though I didn’t think I could.

Often when we are anxious, we are scared we don’t have control of the situation that we are anxious about. The reality is that we can’t micro-manage everything about our lives. Things happen and we can’t control what happens in or live or whether or not others have things that seem to be easier for them. The reality is that we don’t know the situation, challenges or barriers they face and why they need something. It is not our place to pass judgment or feel jealous about things we want without knowing the whole story behind them. At times it can seem like we are at the raw end of the deal for whatever reason, but we have to accept some things for what they are, having gratitude and grace while being thankful.