It can be hard to be a strong person when life is tough and uncomfortable for me as an autistic person. There can be such a deep desire to want to resent to being immature and selfish because it is being all about me when there is a need for me to be stronger not only for me but for those that I love.

Life comes with unexpected circumstances, sometimes they are unpleasant and unwanted. They may not be the ones that we don’t want to do or be involved in because it is too much for us. But there is a reality that we are sometimes needed because we possess the talents and skills necessary to get through situations that others need us to be there for them.

It can be hard to think about others when life is challenging for us as autistic people because our challenges are felt way too much than what we need to. It can be easy to not do what is asked of us as a way of being selfish, but then we at times feel as if there is we are being too selfish because we are not considerate of others. There was a time in my life when I was all about myself or the fact that I could not see my peers or those that I loved as people that I needed to make more of a priority in my life.

Eventually, I decided to be more of a people person and be more open to my peers and those I loved and shared time with because I seen that there was potential to expand myself further than what I was at socially. I was hurting inside and felt all alone but at the same time I was selfish and only made my needs an item of importance because that was all that I could see.

Eventually, life changed and there was more of me that became empathetic and cared about others. Sometimes life throws us situations that become a lot for the neurotypical person let alone an autistic person such as me. There can be a part of me that wants to run away from the situations that make me feel uncomfortable. However, in some situations that is just not an option, and we have  bear reality and be strong even if we don’t want to because it is what others need us to do to co-regulate of keep life balanced so we can be there for them in the way that we need to be for them.

That is what life is when you are in a relationship or have family, it is being there for them when they need you the most. It can be hard sometimes to sacrifice time to be there for others, but it is being strong when you need to be for those that you love because it is what the dynamics of life are.

Sometimes, life comes at us at a way that we don’t expect. It can make us frustrated and upset with the way life is, but it is not a time for us to be angry or upset, especially at those we love. It is important to be strong, even when it is tough because it is unavoidable in life.