As all human beings, there are times when I become frustrated. However, as an autistic person the varying degrees and types of frustration that I experience can be on a myriad of topics. For me many of them are on experiences or situations that I cannot control. As much as I want to control things, I know I cannot, yet there is a sense of frustration when there are these moments in my life, but I get through them.

The thought process that I experience can be deep to the point of where thoughts of being anxious kick in and I want to avoid everything because I am in not in control of a situation or like that things are as easy for me. Eventually, I find a healthy coping mechanism in order to avoid overthinking the situation that I have been thinking about or maybe a situation may need to be met like using the restroom, getting a drink or potentially a snack or meal as that may be the reason I am feeling the way that I am. Eventually, after I check myself on all of those things, there is the potential that things are starting to be better because for one my body needed attention and secondly I am working to avoid the practice of overthinking.

The anger can result from and of many things that at times can transpire to the point where it is taken out on those that I love the most. For nearly the past decade, this has been done in a verbal manner and while it hurts no one physically, I have now realized that it takes a mental toll on those that I love when absolutely do not need to be treated in such a manner. It can be hard as an autistic person when you are feeling feelings that make you uncomfortable or want to lunge at others as a way to process them, but then I realized that I needed to find a way to work at managing them better.

While no way is perfect, it is taking all those skills that I have found and putting them into practice. Sometimes it is doing things just as writing this blog post as a way to process those ways that I am feeling to fully understand that I have to find ways to cope with the challenges. While as of this writing it was initially difficult to get rid of that anger, it was resolved in short order because I am learning to use some of the tools that I was taught along with recognizing that my basic needs needed be met and all of those things cumulatively resulted in my attitude being better and ready to move forward with doing the things that I as an autistic independent adult must do to live his life.

There are times when frustration sets in, but you can’t let it get the best of you. You must work at finding ways at championing it along with listening to your body to recognize that there needs to be things that you need to do to get out of those negative feelings. Granted autism isn’t easy or pleasant when it rears up its ugliness, but it is overcoming those obstacles and preventing them from being blown out of proportion, thus being a win.