It can be hard as an autistic adult when we are triggered by hearing things that we don’t want to hear or that we have to change the way that we do things. It can cause us not to want to change the way we do things or want to avoid things because we overthink the situation beyond what it needs to be thought about. But in reality, we must learn to bounce back and get back on the right path after we are set back by our challenging or triggering moments.

Being told something that is a change to what we have come to expect or that requires us as autistic people to change the way that we operate can be challenging. We can often only see the feelings behind what we are told and not the rationale behind it. It can dwell deep within us to the point that it is the only thing that we think about and there is no reality beyond seeing what we see about it and the way that we feel about it without just seeing what it is, something simple.

Sometimes what can be so simple can be so hard to move from because we often magnify on what we are told, and it is shattered to pieces. However, the reality is that things always change, and nothing is ever solid or concrete. You are going to be told as a human being that they are changing or that you don’t like, that is the reality of what life it about. It is a part of the expectation of working with others in the workplace and sometimes we can be easily offended by a directive that is being told to us, but while in the work world it is to be adhered to, it is something that should never be brought into our personal lives, so it doesn’t dwell in our ability to relax from the other stressors in our lives.

It can be hard to let go of what has been felt as something that is triggering or may lead a change to happen because even though you may not have known that you weren’t supposed to do something, you feel guilty about it because it may have been an unwritten rule of something that may have changed with the landscape that you are in. It can be hard to accept change as an autistic person especially when you feel as if you are being subjective to a less than desirable outcome, but it is important to not react nor take it as seriously as your brain wants to take it. It is important to focus on what makes you feel good and better, things that make you happy instead of in order to dilute the feelings that you have about the situation at hand and the reality of the situation will eventually diminish. It can be hard to imagine that it will, but it is important to be patient, kind and give yourself grace when doing so.

In the end what seems to be important, oftentimes is not and within time what you are feeling will diminish into the next thing you get into, as hard as it can be to make change or deal with triggering situations, in the end you will get through it just as you do anything else.