For most of my life I was led to believe that just because someone instructed me to do things a certain way or that something won’t always work a certain way that it would be embedded in a way that the only way to do something is the only way to do it and that there can never be any variation to the way that something can be done, even if it can be easier or more interesting for you.

Sometimes change is good. It can also make you feel good. It can also benefit you if you are able to do or have things in an easier way that works for you. The way that has been told to you may feel easier at the time that you are educated to by the person that is educating you but that doesn’t mean that it has to stay that way. It also may not look the way that you may find that is easy of the way that you want it to be. There is more pride in knowing that you have the power by having the choice to have things that work in the way that you want them to be and not having to fall in line with the way that is told to you by an authoritative figure.

Granted, there are going to be things that have to be adhered to and that is the way that things are going to be. However, it can be the world when someone that has lived a life that has not been given choices to have things the way that they like them to be or easier then what they are to be because they feel like they can own not only the decision but also be empowered to start to make decisions that they understand can benefit themselves in a  healthy way.

There can be an initial fear when it comes to making decisions when you come from a dynamic where it can be that things have always been expected to be one reason or another because that is what has been led to the individual to do because it benefitted the person that overseen them. Giving someone autonomy over some simple decisions by allowing them to make simple decisions and finding what works for them by having their own personal flair when it comes to developing who they are as they come of age can help them find their interests in what they want in life and see that no matter what supports that they need that they can have the things they want and know that they can make small decisions about things that matter to them as they are able to make them.

For so long, I have lived in fear of making decisions because I have worried about what others think. As long as I am care for and my needs are being met, I have to find what works for me in most situations because it can be the deciding factor in what can keep me regulated and in place at times without missing out on the things I have been used to or love. It is knowing that I am just like any unique person and live life in my own way.