It can be hard to keep a positive mindset continuously. There are moments when I crawl into my bed and think about not wanting to do anything. Part is that I am tired. But what if I have already had enough napping and there needs to be a focus towards something better? This requires me to shift my focus and as hard as that can be, in the end I know that it is the right thing to do because it makes me feel better overall.

As much as there can be things to complain about this winter because of the harsh weather we have been experiencing, there is just as much as a reason to find things to do to make me as motivated as possible during those same challenges. It must start with me and finding those things that interest me. It is a good book or realizing the ruminative thoughts that I experience from time to time do not have total control of my life. Overall, it is up to me to see that there are reasons to keep doing what is successful for me to have the quality of life that I deserve.

There have been moments when I have been more out of sorts because I could not see the positive aspect that I needed to find the purpose for shifting my focus to the better. Even though there are tools to help me in this process, it takes taking the initiative to doing what is necessary to make that happen. It can be hard, but I know that things end up to be much better when I take that initiative and do what I need to do to get back on track from being in that sulking or ruminative state  of negativity where I can only find things wrong with my life instead of finding the many things that are good in life.

There are still things that I wish that I could change, but they are mostly scenarios and situations. Once I use the healthy coping skills I need to or refer to the things that I made to make me understand that things are better and I am safe, I can see that I need to think about something else and not things that are going to bring me down and in a negative state. The truth is at that very moment, it is likely that I can do anything to remedy the situation, or my thinking is flawed and abstract and I am not thinking with a complete mindset. It can be hard to get out of that way of thinking, but it has gotten easier over the years.

It is also having radical acceptance and understanding of things for what they are. Also knowing that I cannot change things that are out of my control is what helps me understand that I must do more to fight the feelings of being down and out about things that I cannot control or want to sulk in my own self-pity about how things are in life. It is knowing that I am safe and have everything that I need to live a full and productive life. Being my best to me and caring for myself in the kind way that I need to so I can be there for others when I need to. It can be easy to sulk and think about the “poor me” but there is also a necessity to shift that focus into a positive mindset so I can be my best for myself and those around me too.