Radical acceptance is one of the biggest skills that I have been able to work with in the past year when it comes to dealing with big changes and understanding that some things are just not the same anymore. But when there are memories of things that once were, it can be hard to move forward. Negative energy and feelings arise to the point where it can be hard to let go of the hard feelings that I once had, even though they are no longer valid.

Nothing in life is ever the same. Things change and as hard as that can be to accept, especially for me, who thinks things should always be what they should be, it does not mean that it works for everyone and there are many other factors that were often considered when changes were made. Yes, it brings unwanted feelings, but continuing to hold on to them, believing that things are going to go back to what they are only going to continue to hurt you.

It can be hard to realize that the feelings that are experienced hurting you even if they are unwanted. But acknowledging that they are and no matter what you think about them, the change that is made is not going to be reversed no matter what, because you have taken the time to put all the facts together and realize that. Continuing to have negative energy towards others or those behind the change because you are experiencing hurtful feelings is not helping you or them in any way. There must be a priority to work at letting go of the hard feelings that are being experienced because they are not only hurting you, but also making your life unpleasant.

Having the memories that autistic people have can both be a blessing and  a curse. When it brings up the past in a way that drives negative energy without a healthy way to expend it, so it does not remain in your system it is very unhealthy. It is essential to find healthy coping skills to process those feelings through your system, so it does not remail and cause unwanted strife.

Radical acceptance is accepting what you cannot change. There are many factors that cannot be changed in my life. Sometimes I want to be angry at others about it  and take my frustrations out on them, but then I know that I am not only hurting myself, but I am hurting others and depleting valuable time that could be used in another way. Yes, there is a necessity to cope with the feelings that are being felt, but it must be done in a way that is healthy, appropriate, and not a burden to yourself.

In the end, it is not worth it to continue to be angry at things that we cannot change. It is essential to accept it for what it is in cope in the way that works best for us. It is also important to work at letting go of the old feelings and memories that we have in our minds that do not help in the day-to-day of life. Holding on to them only continues to hurt us. Once that is established, things do get better. Some things are just not worth all that energy.