Once you hit your breaking point and become dysregulated, have a meltdown, or react negatively to a situation, it can be hard to pick yourself up and start back in a better mindset. I am working on moving forward from past situations, even though it may be difficult to do so.

When that breaking point is reached and the autistic person becomes dysregulated, has a meltdown, or reacts negatively to something, it can be hard to get back on a positive start, especially if breaking out causes a great deal of regret among the autistic person. It can be hard to let go of what they experience because they continually relive what they experienced and the negativity that surrounded from start to finish.

However, it is important for the autistic individual to forget what had happened that caused the negativity around the situation that they experienced. As hard as it can be, getting on a better course than what they were in is a better way to move forward from constantly thinking about what happened.

While whatever happened after the breaking point can be traumatic. What happened has happened and in the current moment in time cannot change it. Unless you are in a therapeutic environment where the goal is to work to find a solution to addressing ways to improve and understand what had happened, then there is no value in rehashing things you cannot fix.

Too many times in my life, I kept going back to what had happened to cause me to react in the way I did towards myself, or others and it only caused me to feel worse about myself. Indeed, it was hard to shift my focus and refrain from bringing up what had happened, but I have had to start to realize that there are better things to do than thinking about a situation that I could not change, only learn from.

I have also learned to only spend a little time on the issue itself, briefly looking  back to realize what caused the issue to get to the point where it was, so I could document it for when I go to see my therapist. Once that is completed, it is important to move on because continuing to ruminate over something that I could not fix will not help it. However, what is Important is to document what you are experiencing after you debriefed yourself from the issue itself to realize what they culprit really is.

In the end, it is important to move on, no matter what. Find something that is beneficial to your mind so you can occupy it with something that is more meaningful to you and that is fulfilling to it than all that negativity. While it can be hard to move on and pick yourself up from what you experienced, it was really for the best.