Throughout the journey my life, my thoughts or perceptions of what the biases that I have embedded about things has sent my life into a negative mindset at times not allowing myself to see that I did not see or believe that there was more to the story that I was seeing just because one thing was told to me about it and I was not willing to see all sides of the story.

As autistic people, it can be hard to build trusting relationships, but when we do, it can be hard to see beyond them and believe what is true even if what they are saying is not true or should have not even been told to us because it was against the boundaries of doing so. It is within breaking those boundaries that can cause great strife in what we allow ourselves to believe about ourselves or a situation without seeing that is their perception and not what is needed to be felt within ourselves.

We are all human and are entitled to our feelings and thoughts about things. But there are healthier ways to express them especially on those especially those that are challenged thinkers and let what is expressed to them to become pervasive in nature and not allow them to understand the social landscape of not understanding that there is more than one view to many things.

Just because someone says something to you, regardless of your neurotype does not mean that is exactly true. It is realizing that there are often many views on how things or environments are viewed. And just as many autistic individuals see things differently than those of our neurotypical counterparts, it is important to never take one’s frustration on an autistic person, especially if you are unaware as to whether they can conceptualize and see that it is not the only or proper way to think about a situation.

There have been many times that things have been told to me that I have only seen the story that has been told to me and that is what I have continued to believe for many years. Even though these thoughts are not even relevant to the situation that I experienced at the current moment, they are still deeply embedded in my brain and I will perseverate on them because I feel like that I was treated so wrongly, even though things have gotten better or that I did not see beyond what I was told or see that there were different sides to people than what I was led to believe, it deeply strained my relationship with those that had been shown in their negative light.

It is now knowing after many years of experience navigating the social landscape that I must consider the situation totally before passing judgment about something and allowing the negativity of a situation to enter my life and not allow myself to think a negative connotation about something just because of what I am told.