I am now at a time when I am finally at peace. It has been nearly two weeks and while there continues to be minor bumps along the biggest transition in my adult life, things happen that would once seem unimaginable. Sometimes life makes us grow even when we don’t think we can.

As humans, there are things in life that we are just unable to control, but one of the best things we can control is our emotions. As hard as it is believed that autistic people cannot control their emotions, there are indeed times when there can be the encouragement by the autistic person to redirect themselves and pull themselves together when they need to.

I am certain when things happen to autistics that become frustrating for them, they often think that it is the worst imaginable thing that can happen to them and there is nothing that can be done to rectify the situation at hand. This at times triggers our emotions and because we may not have acquired the ability to filter them before reacting, it can often result in a meltdown.

To be clear that this is no way to patronize all autistic individuals, however it can show that if you grant time to make them be able to be aware of the perception that they may receive or that whether in the grand scheme of things is it the end of all things. If one allows themselves to have the skillset, they can have the ability to pull themselves together and get back on track if they want themselves to.

I only know this because in my lived experience there are times when I have the mental capacity to do so to avert having a meltdown and avoiding causing a scene because at times, I can realize that I do not want to have the way that I react to a situation that is beyond my control to manifest itself in a negative way towards those that I treasure greatly.

Again, there are times when we cannot control our emotions as individuals with challenges. Life happens and no human being on this earth is perfect, me included. However, I learned in those experiences that I do not want those who value me greatly to see that I do not have the ability to pull myself together when I have been bestowed the skills to do so. It comes down to the simple fact that when I feel that I need to control myself I can.

There have been times when it has been very difficult for me to control myself when things become sensitive for me. However, in the last few weeks, there have become instances where I knew that I had to pull myself together in the eyes of my friends, peers and so forth so that I could be the esteemed person that has conquered so much more than what the issue at hand is. There are so many times that I doubt myself to be able to do things that I thought I never could.

Simply put, life happens and there are times when we must do what we need to do to get through situations that are beyond our control. This includes moments where oneself is unprepared or has other comorbidities that cause things that can happen where we must be able to endure life’s challenges and do what we may not think we can do, but for the sake of many variables, it just must be done.

As much as it can make it hard to believe that we can do what can be seen as the unimaginable, it may give us the opportunity to step out of our comfort zone or experience things in a way that we need to. Stepping out of one’s comfort zone is quite challenging, but when a opportunity forces itself to happen, it can quite hard to believe the possibilities that it can provide with once was thought to be unimaginable. Even if there are times when this becomes a necessity, it is a part of having the potential to do something that you may have never imagined that would ever happen or allow in your life.