Sometimes we get stuck in believing that others we know are the same person we knew when we were younger. We forget that they have been someone different at a past time when we did not know them. Sometimes they are who they are because of their struggles or just going to have their quirks or challenges. Regardless, it doesn’t cost anything to be nice to a person. You can keep your boundaries while understanding they are human too. They also need grace and understanding.

There can be many reasons that we can’t just shake something in our mind. Maybe it is how it hurt us or there was memories that we had. Or we are unwilling to bend from our vision of what life can be. Some of us can be rigid as autistic thinkers. The reality is that things can be so hard for others. They can be just as hard for us. We can’t always see that. Being kind to someone never costs anything. It helps them get through a challenging day, just as it does for you.

There can be a need for you sometimes to intermingle. At first, it can be hard to admit that this can be done. It is also difficult to think that things will be the same as they were. You feel that it is not a good thing. It is just as important to give things a chance to see if they can be better. Keeping boundaries is crucial. It helps preserve your mental well-being. It’s necessary to do what is needed to keep your best. Knowing how to keep your boundaries is essential to protect yourself. You can acknowledge the potential to make your life easier. You can do this without doing all the hard work. At the same time, you can leverage some aspects.

Without a doubt, it can seem impossible to co-exist with others. You think they can’t exist in an environment with which you have a connection. Alternatively, they just have the life they wanted for so long. But in my right mind, I realized I needed to find peace. I was a good person. The environment or situation they were in no longer served me as it once did. I had to recognize my own identity. I needed to be happy with what I have. To be successful, I must embrace who I am and appreciate the things I like.

It doesn’t mean that I don’t have to completely ignore them. I can be a good person and still keep my boundaries to best protect them. Giving someone the cold shoulder or being mean to them does not serve me or them in a good capacity. It also takes me being my best. I know there was a part of them at one time that helped me when they needed me to. We have had our experiences. We are starting fresh as we have both learned and grown in our own way. I had to let go of the mean thoughts and spirits that I had about people of my past. I needed to be cordial and considerate to them. I had to show some grace and see that they can grow too.