Life is full of choices. For most of my life, my parents decided what it should be. Alternatively, I chose what I thought was best for me. It told me that I can live the life I wanted. Nevertheless, it was hard for me to understand what was right by doing what is important for my well-being. It means prioritizing your needs. It involves knowing what matters most. Do not live a life of anxiety about it. Be informed about the choice you make.

Making your own choices as an autistic adult can be difficult. You have been told what you are going to do most of your life. It puts you in a state of fear with your parents. Even others know you need time for yourself. It is fine to do what you need to do. Even though people that know you best fear the worst happening to you, they worry a lot. When you are well, you know yourself best. You know when to make the right choices.

There can be guilt in making choices that others do not agree with. It means recognizing that you are your own person. What you do matters as long as you know you are not harming yourself. Those who have supported you for a long time often see you as you were in the past. This was before you became independent and lived the life you have now. But is just as important to learn to set boundaries around the things that makes you stressed.

Eventually, you grow a backbone. You understand how important it is to do what you need to do to protect your mental health. This is especially true when you are aware of taking care of yourself. If something is going to cause you a great deal of stress, they why continue stressing about it. It is about learning to let go of what does not serve you. It is about understanding that your life is your life.

We are human and all live life differently but is not a less lived one. We are all capable of doing things that are best for ourselves. We must know and understand the consequences. When something adds more stress, but is meant to help us, why do we punish ourselves for our actions? When an autistic person wants to do something, often times they will do it. Just because it is what someone else believes it should be is the way that it should be. Even if we are autistic, it is our life to live. They have to do the hard part. Let us experience what we need to do. This way, we understand why or why not we should do the things that we do.

Eventually, we learn and become more independent within time. We move past our fears and do what is needed for us. We learn from our mistakes. Still, we continue to do what is needed. We live our life in the best way that we can. We have to learn that we need to do what is best for us is more important than anything else.