As humans not every day can go as we want it to. Some days make us want to pull out our hair and scream. Others make us feel horrible about ourselves. The key is that we overcome our struggles. We need to be the better person for ourselves. Deep down, the thoughts we have about ourselves when we are not at our best are harsh. We would never say them to our best supporters or friends.

When we don’t feel like ourselves, it can be challenging. We struggle to keep fighting through the hard stuff that crosses our path. We sometimes feel defeated. We feel like we are the worst person in the world. There can seem no way out of the way that we are feeling. I know deep down that is not the case about myself. I believe that there will be better days to come.

In those darkest moments, we often feel trapped by our hard feelings. There can seem to be a disconnect between what is real and what is not. We can feel trapped by our feelings even if they are not true in that moment. Sometimes we just need to relax and get some rest. That in of itself can have great benefits. Most of all, we have to be patient. We should give ourselves grace. What we are feeling on our bad days isn’t always true.

We most of all must be kind to ourselves and remember to stick to the routine as much as possible. Routines for autistic people can be both a blessing and a curse. Yet, they can also be the way that many of us stay well and regulated. It can be difficult when things don’t go as planned due to roadblocks and detours. But we must move past the pity party and recognize that better days are on the horizon. One mistake doesn’t make us bad people. A series of events that don’t go well in a few hours also doesn’t define us.

I had to start accepting that. It is just as important to get back on track. This is true no matter how hard it can be to want to do so. I once made a small mistake. This mistake grew into bigger problems. I couldn’t stop doing what was wrong. I learned that this was the illness. I was undoing all the work it took to get and stay well. I realized it was crucial to get back on track. I needed to do what was necessary for my well-being. Yes, I felt horrible. I didn’t like the reality that I had to face. I was also an adult. Continuing down a consequential path only brought consequences. I knew in my right mind that I did not want to face them.

We are all human and have our bad days. We make mistakes too. Still, they don’t have to be part of our lives if we let them go. Learning and letting go of our hard feelings is part of the process. We are stronger than what we allow ourselves to think when we are our worst. I let go of false beliefs. I move on to a better mindset when a mistake is made.