There have been many moments in my life where I have become frustrated at the way that things have been. There have been times when I thought I needed to follow the surrounding energy. That often led me to carry the frustration into my personal life. It made me not want to do the things that I knew I needed to do. Eventually, things changed. I no longer focused on the extensive amount of negative energy that I had.

I realized that part of having that negative energy was due to my old beliefs. I had to let go of thinking that life was all about me. I had to accept that there were things I can’t change. Some things won’t be the way I want them to be. I can be frustrated at things. Yet, it does not give me an excuse to take things out on others. I must not let my feelings dictate my actions towards others. I had to learn to release my feelings towards others during frustrating moments. I understood that those moments were not always about them.

Yes, I was frustrated and to some extent I had the right to. But it did not mean that I had to play the blame game or believe that others were the problem. I had to learn how to manage my feelings and cope with them in the best way I can. Being frustrated to the point of anger does not help me. It does not help anyone around me either. I had to learn how traumatic and scary it was when I was not my best. That was a big catalyst when wanting to make a change.

There are ways to express and share your frustrations. But it must be done in a healthy way. I had to let go of old grudges. I also had to release past beliefs about people and practices. These beliefs were not always the truth of the matter. It was often not worth the energy to get upset. I couldn’t control or fix those things. I have been the person that has wanted to have things in the way that makes me feel comfortable. Eventually, I had to learn a difficult lesson. I do not always have the power to make things the way that I want them.

Finding the ways to express my anger has not been easy. It can be difficult to know that it’s okay to express yourself in a way that seems silly. This is especially true when it involves just yourself. I had to learn that doing things that seem silly is perfectly acceptable. I am the only one who will see it. I also had to learn that it is perfectly acceptable to cry when it is needed. Crying is not limited just because of our gender or what is expected of us as men.

In the end, finding better ways to handle my frustration has been beneficial. It is an improvement over what I had long been experiencing. I had to let go of wanting everything to be perfect. I also had to accept that things are not be the way I want them to be. I had to adapt to situations. Then, I found my own way to cope in more appropriate ways.