When you’re autistic, there are times when the little things in life don’t go your way. These instances can make us upset. While they can seem small to many, they have the chance to become magnified. When those magnified things cause us stress and anxiety, we often want to do things without thinking about things first. I have learned it is crucial to stop and think. Rash decisions made in haste can affect me profoundly.

When things irritate me, it can seem like life is unfair. But in all honesty, I do not know how things are affecting others in the same way. So, it is hard to pass judgment on someone or something that I do not know the whole situation behind. Life can be unfair. We do not always get what we want. Moreover, it often does not come in the way we hoped. But I have had to learn that is the way things are sometimes. You can prepare all you can. It is also important to count your blessings in the course of those things happening too. It helps make things smoother as they go along.

Things can be irritating in the time between when we have to wait for things. Autistic people often struggle with one major issue. They find it difficult to wait for things that are out of their control to happen. The last few years have taught us in the autistic community something valuable. Things can’t always be expected. They can even change without notice. This has taught me to be more resilient in waiting for things. I now know that sometimes things can not happen as expected.

Life is hard. There are curve balls that happen at times when we least expect them. They can throw our emotions in a heightened state. But I now know that it is important to not react to the things that I can’t control. I must work at finding ways to get through the challenging moments. These moments can be frustrating. I need to find healthier ways to cope with the challenging thoughts or ideas that in my mind.

Life is going to happen whether we like it or not. We can’t change the circumstances that are out of our control. We have to move ahead making the best of the situation that we are in. I have found that it is hard to get through things by reacting. Obsessing is difficult when I have to wait for situations to happen. It is also hard when waiting for an answer. It is important to be kind to myself. I should give myself grace. I need to fill empty voids of time with the things that I enjoy doing.

There are always going to be things that we are going to be frustrated at. These issues seem big to us as autistic people. Yet, in the grand scheme of things, they are not really as big as they seem. Things will get better. We just need to be patient with the process of which they are going to happen. It can be hard, but in the end what we want will happen.