In life there will be bad days. We are human and we all have them. It can sometimes feel like nothing can go right or everything you do is going against you. It sometimes seems like you can never get ahead. It is true you want to give up, but you can’t. Do your best and don’t let the hard days win.

I have had and still have many hard days in my life. I used to believe that I would never get through them. I felt that they were the worst thing that happen to me. Many changes have happened in my life over the past few years. I believed they were the worst things that happen. I thought I never overcome them. I feared that those affected would see me as a bad person who never learned from my mistakes.

What transpired seemed like the worst possible thing that happen in that moment. Despite this, I eventually had to learn that we are all human. We make mistakes and have bad days. I have had worse days at times where I thought I never move on with my life. Eventually, I realized that there was more to life than my current thoughts. I often ruminated on them at that very moment.

You find it hard to see beyond what you are experiencing in the moment. This often happens when you are autistic. You feel terrible. Whatever is bothering you repeats itself in your head. It continues until you choose to work at letting it out. I realized very late in life that it is best to express my thoughts. Keeping them inside was not beneficial. I will never let them go if I keep them inside. They will be all that I think about. This will paralyze my day and not allow me to end the day on a good note.

Later on in life, I felt as an autistic adult. I had to end the day on a good note. It didn’t matter how bad the day was. It can be hard to see the silver lining on the worst days. Even if it is really small, that silver lining exists. But over time, I learned of even one thing that brought me joy midst the challenges. It made the day a little easier to finish. The next day also became easier to start because of it.

It can be easy to say that bad days are going to ruin your life. This is especially true if you are the type of person that thinks nothing good will happen in the future. I was that person that never thought that I deserved to be happy or enjoy things in my life. Many pieces of my life contributed to my misery for so long. I also wasn’t taking care of my mental health, which didn’t help. Now that I am mentally stable, I see myself as a better person. Life is more manageable for me.

In life, I now don’t let the bad days win. I recognize bad days as a part of life. This is especially true when challenges feel difficult to overcome. Everything seems stacked up against me. It can be hard to move on. Yet, it eventually becomes a necessity. If you keep holding yourself back to what was, it will never escape your mind. It will continue to hold you hostage from the freedom you deserve.