As I continue to learn more about myself on this wonderful journey that I am on discovering how to take care of myself and be priority in my life, I am beginning to learn that if there is a concern or I am feeling something, I just need to be honest about it and discuss it with who it needs to be discussed with. It may or may not require drastic measures, but it can be so relieving to get out what I am thinking about rather than keep thinking about it.

Oftentimes, I live my life in fear of being judged about what I have to say no matter because I often expect little or no value from needing to share something. If something is going to have a negative response, not be useful or cause the energy to rise, then it is best to not share what I need to share with a trusted person, even if I have known them for decades.

I could share many other things with them that have a much more deeper school of thought, but because my brain automatically believes that nothing will come of what I need to say, I will think that there is nothing to do but stew about it or express those feelings with others that I feel that I can safely respond to me but are not the ones that need to hear the concern and their answer may not be valuable.

Recently, I have started to be more open about my issues and concerns with those that need to know about them. While there can be the initial fear of judgement or tone-deaf response, there could be also the possibility of getting a response in the form of advice of things that may be helpful to realize if you are thinking the right things and whether that would be helpful to what you  are experiencing. They may know more about the situation than what you may think and even just letting them know how you feel can be helpful in getting it off your chest.

It doesn’t have to mean that they have to meet your needs and maybe they cannot, but making headway in having them know what is being felt can be relieving and informative you and many others to the point you may get the relief that you need to feel from being pressured from a situation that is being experienced. If the person who needs to hear about it does not know about what you are experiencing, then they cannot help you and choosing to keep it with you or where it does not need to be is not healthy or helpful for you.

I know firsthand it can take a lot to communicate, especially when there are strong feelings involved in a situation. There are also things like anxiety and other things that can make it more complicated, but if there is a rapport and comfort in knowing that what you share with someone can be trusted, then it is best to take advantage of what supports you have or can build so you can be better at communicating with others. It was not always easy for me, and it took many years to get to the point where I am able to fluently communicate today. It may not get there for you, but it is important to at least try in the way that you know how. You will feel so much better when you do.