Over the years, I have come to realize that it is best to not react to the smallest of things. Even though my brain may think in the beginning that the reaction that I may receive may be magnified in my brain, it is important to not match the energy in the same space as this could intensify the reaction and make things worse.

There are times when we get told something that can trigger a reaction in us and us as human beings want to respond in anger or frustration in a way that is unbecoming of us and not the way that we would want to present ourselves in front of others. It can make us look less than who we really are and show others that we are not capable of conducting ourselves in the ways that we know as being in the world that is not made for us.

I know firsthand when someone reacts at us that we can get bent out of shape and want to air our frustrations at the person who says things to us that cause us the feelings we have. But sometimes too as individuals with challenges, we do not perceive things just as they are and we at times overreact to something that we believe is bigger than what it is. We over rationalize the thought or the situation without realizing just how small in the grand scheme of things that it plays in what is involved in what we must go through.

Many times, reacting in a negative way to match the energy in the room or to show dominance that we are smarter than what was being said can be perceived as being fearful and frighting because we act in the anger in our heart because we too are frightened or are reactive to what is said to us. But through the entire situation, it is important to think about the way that we respond to or do not even respond to a situation. Is it worth all the fight that we have with someone? Are we making a big deal out of nothing?

This is why it is important to take time and evaluate the situation, because if we give both parties time to cool off, then the reactive dust will settle and eventually the question or remark that arose will dissipate and all will be forgot about and will not even be an issue. It is always best to spend as much time as you can to think about how you will respond to something than instantly reacting to what you are feeling at that very moment.

Even though you would want to think about having the answer that you want to have or assuming dominance, it is best to remember that it is important to remember that others perceive you in a much better way than the way that you react in that very moment and in all things considered, is what you are reacting you going to matter in the future or is it something so small that your brain is overreacting to it because it is the only thing that you can think about? As hard as it can be, just take a step back and re-evaluate the situation and see how much it matters to you. Nothing in life is perfect and down the road it might not even matter, but the way that you react may stand out more than anything.