As I am sitting here getting ready to write my last blog post of the e-newsletter cycle, I am doing so in a much better mood than what I have in an exceptionally long time. I am starting to see things from my own lens, what I am grateful for and the opportunities that I have rather than everything wrong in my life. Indeed, they are indeed challenging, but I am choosing to get through them and not allowing the challenging moments to steal my joy.

For far too long, I complained about everything not being the way that I wanted it to be. I would be irritated at the smallest of things if I were not satisfied with them. It was a lie I would find things wrong with every situation that I was involved in rather than seeing that there were benefits to the changes that were being made.

I would be stressed out about the situations that I could control and if I felt that it was the reason of others, I would hold a grudge and be vindictive of something that may not have been their fault, but because I was left to believe characteristics about someone without understanding that there is multiple facets of the entire situation, I would be deeply reluctant to see that things do change for a reason. I also was unwilling to see that things were never the way that they were supposed to be for an exceptionally long time, and I never really got to take advantage of things in the way that they were supposed to be for me. Now that I do, I am beginning to enjoy things that I need to do and see that my life is becoming more fulfilled rather than experiencing the negative behaviors that have long been practice of me having a negative experience of what I must go through.

There are always going to be those in your path that are going to want to call to attention the things that they feel are an issue or want to bring you down into their misery. For far too long, I have fallen into this trap because I just wanted someone to interact with. But, when that interaction transpires negative energy and it is hurting my mental health rather than being beneficial to me, then there is a necessity to realize that you must stay in your own court and do what is necessary for you to flourish in the environment that you are in.

It can also be hard to not let any negative energy carry on into other environments that you are in, including those that are more your sacred space. It can be hard to let that frustration go and work on having your own joy for what it is and “shelving” things that should not be transferred outside of the environment that they are in. It can be hard and for a long time, I have let this happen to me without seeing the joy and gratitude of what is in my life. It may be hard at first to allow myself to shelve or let go of things that don’t need to be in my personal life, but you have to stop and think about how much value do they have in your personal life or if there is the ability to change things about it while you are away. Sometimes, it is best to focus your energy on the things that make you happy and put aside the things that just do not make you happy because you are only hurting yourself in the process.

You are the one that has the chance to make each day what you make it. You could find everything you can find that is wrong with the world you are in, or you could think about the things you could be grateful for or radiate positivity on yourself and bring you the joy you need to understand something clearly at last in the day. In the end, it is what you make it.