The famous adage of saying and doing are two different things is something that can resonate with me deeply. There is a reality where it can be hard to decide what I feel about certain things or people because there can be multiple things that weigh into the factor of knowing where you belong as it relates to yourself, but there are times when you must understand within yourself that you must be willing to take a stance on the issue at hand and be firm regardless of wanting to please others for your personal gain.

It can be hard to admit that there are things in life that we feel multiple ways about. There are many factors that are considered when it comes to having to be able to survive in life and struggling with things like the social landscape can make it even more difficult to be able to understand where you need to fall within the issue at hand. There can also be a deep sense of peer pressure or people pleasing that is felt that can cause you to have multiple takes on something, but the reality is that doing just that will run you ragged and stress you out even further.

There is the reality where you must be able to think about yourself and how that person or thing has helped you navigate what you have needed to do to survive in life and what is essential for you. If you trust the person or thing enough and they have been there for you, then it is important for you to keep loyal and never back down from what you feel is right. But to act another way because you are led to believe the same thing in another way that can be more hurtful, or damaging can be quite hurtful. This is when there needs to be boundaries set in place, so you do not cause internal damage to yourself in a way that further compromises your well-being.

It is essential to always be mindful of navigating the social landscape and not to personal jeopardize your safeguard that you have so you cannot fall prey to what is told to you to the contrary where you are easily led to believe things that are in no way of effect to you. It can be hard when there is a mix of emotions within you and there is a need to be on multiple sides of something that can be ever so delicate to you, but it is always important to remember to always keep your well-being and the benefits the item in question has provided to you and how hurtful it can be if you choose to go against the same thing or person that has helped you when you have needed it. As much as you can have the desire to want to fall into the popular persuasion to be liked or a part of belonging, there is also a reality that you too need to be your own person who is able to stand your own ground because often there are others who will not stand up to protect you from being hurt or penalized when there is a need for someone to advocate on your behalf. Even though you may have thoughts about something, it is important to see the whole picture before rushing to judgment about something before totally realizing the potential consequences.