As I am becoming more regulated and grounded with myself and the things that I have to do as an autistic adult, I am starting to learn to make deals and compromises with myself in order to be used as a way to get what I need to get accomplished but also to find momentum in tasks that can be hard because of my challenges.

Growing up and until I moved into my current home, mundane tasks were always hard to do for me because I often did understand the necessity of getting them done or seeing why they had to be done. However, as time has progressed since living at my current apartment for over three years, I now see how pleasant things can look or the sense of accomplishment that I could have when doing things.

These are things that come easy to those who do not experience challenges in things like housework, grooming and so forth. To someone such as myself who’s brain is wired differently than the typical brain, acknowledging and setting forth to do tasks that can be so simple can be so challenging because of not only the fact of transitioning from something that I may enjoy but having to do several processes within that task or tasks.

Sometimes it means that I must do things in moderation just because doing the entire task can be too much for me and I may need a sensory break or to experience a little bit of something enjoyable. It may also include the need to have something rewarding like a snack or holding off on having some soda until a set of tasks are complete.

There are many things in life that many do not want to do, but they are necessary for daily living. They are what is needed to maintain a healthy lifestyle. It can be the part of transitioning that is the hardest part of it all and once you get started, it can become easier for it to be completed. They are things that can be particularly challenging to be done or they can be something as simple as walking down the street, whatever they may be, it must be the one that needs to do the task to be motivated to do it.

It is making that deal in your head that after you do X, Y and Z that you will have that small reward of phone time or a can of soda. It is realizing that the ways that may seem normal to neurotypicals to complete tasks may not work for you and what may even work for me may not work for you. You must find what works for you and stick to that plan.

Having a routine helps in this effort and knowing that things need to be done in order for you to experience things you enjoy and not have the things you need to do them or have a unproductive environment for you to live or work in can be what causes you to understand the necessity of having to do what you need to do in order to get those tasks executed.

In the end, you must find how things work for you in the best interests of getting what you need done so you can function in life, for me, playing Let Us Make a Deal is what works for me.