There is a reality in an everyday world when some days are going to be more challenging than others. The neurodivergent brain could want to point out all that is wrong with the day and have a domino effect on how your emotions are managed going forward, but there are times when you must remember the good things in life.

Life as we know is not always perfect. There are going to be days where it seems like the world is attacking you on all sides and it seems like it is the worst thing in the world. Autistic individuals such as I like to ruminate and catastrophize in these moments that life is never going to get any better. Many people struggle with getting out of the trenches of what can be some challenging days. There is a wanting to be in a constant state of gloom and doom.

However, there are times to throw your pity party, but what I have learned from experience is that it is best to keep it to yourself and not make it continuous. While there may be challenges in my life, there are also many times where I have had many achievements or that good times were had. Yes, there is acceptance that these challenging days are OK, but for me, these moments are often trivial in nature and are nothing in the grand scheme of things. It can often seem as if there are a bunch of things going wrong in life, but it is just another day that was a little bit challenging.

While these things are intensified in my brain, as is with many autistic individuals, there is often a sense where anxiety comes into play. It is important to work at better management when these challenges arise so that other issues to the overall wellness of oneself do not become hindering. Personally, this is where my struggles often begin, focusing on the negative and continuing to dwell on it in a looping fashion followed by behaviors or characteristics that lead oneself into a negative pattern.

The focal point is having the ability to recognize and understand of how the challenge or struggle intensifies and spirals into the negative effects thus causing the unwanted behaviors, as what I was struggling with the past few years After the ability to recognize the behavior or pattern, then you have to address it with those you look to help in that effect so the problem can be remedied.

Once you address the issues, it is important to try to follow through with things that may be suggested to you by those providing support or treatment. For example, I have been having an issue with boredom and excessive sleepiness when I am struggling with challenging moments to the point that I retire to bed. While all in good, I can sleep for several hours at a time, thus throwing me uncoordinated for the day. Next, came the reality that I was not willing to do what was needed for me to be well, continuing to exasperate unwanted behavior to the point where it became unmanageable and quite noticeable by those I would interact with regularly.

At this point, I am working the issue, however there are moments where it’s not perfect, but it’s important to remember to get back on track once falling out of pattern so the issue doesn’t continue, because that is how the issue, especially for me can get to the point where I has been continuously, and the pattern can be hard to break. It’s not about how long you can keep the streak going, but how often you work at staying the course and continuing to see the positive things that you have done in and with your life so that the pity party doesn’t continue or that it is transpired onto others that don’t deserve it. Rember, that it is just one day, and life is worth living, there will be many better days ahead if you choose to see the good things that you have done while living.