As autistic people, we are very regimented and like to know that things are always going to be there for us. However, there come times in our lives when things must be changed for reasons beyond our control. It can make us angry, upset or not be able to see a way out of the stress we are feeling. However, there can be a silver lining that can allow us to see that something is for the best.

When something is guaranteed to be in one’s life continually, it becomes greatly embedded in the fabric of an autistic person’s life. As autistic people, we feel as if we can always depend on it being there no matter what else is going on in the world. However, there comes a point when things do change. It may not be our fault and we very much may not be able to control that it is being taken away from us.

We feel as if our life has been robbed from underneath us and there is nothing that can be done except to run away from it or cause harm to oneself. We think that there is no way out of what we must go through and think of the worst possible scenario that can happen if we agree to that change can also be a good thing and if it is intended to make us grow and become more independent in the future, it is our own fault for wanting to hold on something that makes us uncomfortable.

It is also important that you give what change is intended to happen a chance to work and see how it goes. It may not be as bad as it may seem to be. Indeed, there may be hiccups or challenges along the way, but in the initial phase, that is why you have your support system behind you to advocate for you when you are not able to.

Playing the blame game and passing judgment on those that made the decision is not healthy behavior. It can result in becoming further frustrated if the outcome is what you do not desire. While you may think that the change at hand is the product of factors that anger you, it is best to stay out of conflict and do what you need to do to protect your mental health and be an example to your peers.

Without a doubt, anxiety will be produced and at times it will be quite intrusive to the point you will want to run away from what needs to happen. But you will not know if it will go in the way that it needs to if you do not try to make it the best that you can. It may not be ideal, and it will be a little bit heightened, but you must try your best to make it what it is and see how it goes for a while.

It can be hard to see that even if you must try something that is different, especially after years or even decades of having something that has always been there for you but has been taken away with the intent of wanting you to be more independent in the long run. If having the comfort of something has always been there and you were never given the chance to experience something that has the potential to make you more independent, then you will be stuck in the same old rut that you are in.

While it may not have been the way that I wanted to become more independent, it is indeed an avenue that can help me in doing so and I need to see it as such. Sometimes we have goals that are too far our of reach and when we are shown that, it brings to light that we need to see that we need to take a smaller step towards independence that we may have found unfavorable in the past.

Part of moving forward with life is having your support system behind you when doing so and knowing that they are there for you and you can come to them with your concerns or issues that you may have in the process and know that you are stronger than you think your brain wants to tell you. Its squashing those thoughts and doing what you know you need to do to break free from what has been holding you on to something for so long. You need to see that there is hope beyond what is in your comfort zone and give things a chance to work themselves out and know that you can do anything that you set your mind to.