I am a resilient person, but sometimes it can be tough when negative thoughts bring me down in life, thus making it challenging to bounce back. I have learned that I need to widen my resiliency zone so that it can be easier to bounce back from the challenging thoughts that I experience at times.

There is so much to be happy about and if I would just think of what makes me happy, then that would be the thing to get me back to where I need to be. It can be hard at times when your brain is left to think on its own and it drifts into a negative mindset and those challenging thoughts enter my headspace, thus putting me into a state of sadness or depression.

It can be hard to bounce back because I continue to ruminate on the thoughts that are not helpful to me. They are negative and at times very challenging to conquer, but if I allow myself to get into what I can consider happy or joyful, then I may be able to get back on my feet easier than it usually is to. Only sitting and dwelling on things that cannot be changed at that very moment does not help myself in the present moment.

It goes without saying that it is essential to live in the present moment and not allow myself to dwell on things that happened in the past or things that I think will ruin my life in the future. Not everything is as bad as can seem to be. Sometimes, I need to give things a change and let them run their course. But at the very moment when I am dwelling on how bad they were or think that they could be, that is doing nothing to help me charter the course of the day, instead it is mostly only making things worse than what they are and I need to allow myself to move on from those challenging moments and remember the good that I can do if I allow myself to.

Allowing myself to not work on the skills that I need to widen my resiliency zone will only keep my focus on the things that are not helpful to me. I will not be able to move on from the things that are challenging or cumbersome in my life, nor be able to focus on the things that are in the here and now. At certain times in the day, it is more than likely that I cannot change anything about past or future situations that is going to ease me. Rather, I need to focus on what I can do to make the present moment the best I can instead of constantly dwelling on the negatives of my life.

I did what I did in the past and there is nothing that I can do about it to make it easier but to move on and focus on maintaining wellness by making the rest of the day better and doing things that make me happy. Being reluctant to be motivated to do things that keep me motivated and going and instead just laying around and being unproductive does nothing to remedy the challenges that I am facing in that moment.

Getting moving can be the hard part, but I know that I need to do it because if I do not and choose to lay around, feel miserable about myself and potentially fall asleep, I will feel miserable and regretful about things that I cannot change. I also know that I cannot change the past about the things that I did, nor can I worry excessively about the future that is unpredictable or uncertain of how things will turn out in the end.

The best thing that I can do is work on being more resilient by widening my resiliency zone by garnering the necessary skills to improve myself from bouncing back from the things that are challenging. I am a resilient person after being through so much in life and these small challenges are just a drop in the bucket of what I have experienced. I am stronger than what I think I am capable of if I allow myself to think about the best in myself and not so much of the things that are challenging.