Over the years of living on my own, I have gathered the skills of problem solving. These skills help me to prevent a small situation from escalating. I can stop it from becoming a full-blown situation when there is no need to. It can be tempting to jump to conclusions. Finding a way out of doing something or finding another method to solve a problem can be appealing. Nonetheless, I have solved many problems without the help of others.

Finding solutions to difficult problems isn’t always easy. Nevertheless, having solutions ready when common issues arise is beneficial. It is crucial to know what to do before these issues become large-scale problems. This prevents unnecessary escalation. Moreover, it’s important to avoid panicking when we feel inclined to blow things out of proportion. Our autistic brains often exaggerate situations. This can cause us panic and concern. Often, there is no necessary need for that to happen.

The way I have chartered life the past several years has shown me something important. Some solutions to problems are really simple. It has also taught me that sometimes it’s necessary to tell someone about things. It is also helping me build skills in understanding and logic. Sometimes, things are explained in ways that I need to know. This includes knowing when to escalate a situation to a higher level. It also means recognizing the value in those who love and care for us. We can always go to them with our concerns or questions if we don’t know something.

It is also important to have self-advocacy skills. Sometimes, a problem can be solved by speaking up in the right way. By calling out issues early, we can prevent them from becoming a big deal. The person doing the task for you does not see or know something unless you express your concerns. Your needs will be met if you communicate effectively. It can sometimes solve things before they become bigger issues drawing unnecessary fear and panic that can make things worse. Someone doesn’t always know what or where something is unless you tell them. Even if they know, it is important to have reassurance. It is also important not to become offended by the way information is delivered to you. Be grateful and speak up when necessary to have your needs met.

In the end, it is about allowing myself to understand and accept the things I can solve on my own. I need to know that I have solutions for the problems I can tackle. It’s also important to speak up when I have fears and need reassurance. I must acknowledge that some things are beyond my control. In these moments, self-advocacy is crucial to have my essential needs met and to feel safe. It is necessary not to become overwhelmed by a situation or to allow things to get out of control.