Today is National Coming Out Day. Observed annually on October 11, National Coming Out Day honors the courage of LGBTQ+ individuals. These individuals choose to embrace their identity and live openly. This journey has been my personal battle over the past few years. It has followed its own course. I have finally learned to act with a clear mind. I accept what is for my own personal well-being and mental clarity.

In 2025, I worked to get in a better position mentally. Eventually, I embraced my identity as aromantic asexual homo oriented. That is not entirely clear. Nevertheless, it signifies being true to who I have always known I was. I stayed within my personal bounds to keep my mental health in check. It has been a long road to be satisfied in that realm. After coming out on my personal Facebook last year, it affirms my sexuality, mental health, and autism all in one. This is essential for being my best self. I understand that it is what is best for my sanity and safety.

I fall nowhere near what the gay community is and what happens in that community. I am accepting and understanding that the attraction solely is there. I do not want the romance and sexual parts of what that brings to the table. I also don’t want the commitment of the stereotypical things that it brings. Going to the many social events is just too much for me. Gay men often consider things that I do not want to experience or be a part of. I want no part of it.

By affirming where I fall on the LGBTQ+ community it makes those aware of what my preferences are. In common terms, I often refer to myself as being asexual. I do not have a sexual attraction to others. That often pushes away those who want to make connections. People in the online world try to scam their way to connect. They do this for what they want. They know that I am not open for business in that way.

Being properly educated in sexuality is important. Years ago, this was seen as taboo for autistic and other people with special needs. But it’s also important to recognize that we are sexual beings. We have needs just like many other humans out there. This was a big contributing factor to why I hid who I really was for nearly three decades. Firstly, it was often the target of bullying. Secondly, I knew that I did not want to follow the mainstream gay agenda.

At first, I believed that when I worked my way out of the closet. Later, I realized that I never wanted to follow the mainstream gay line of thinking. I had to find my mental stability. I also needed to do research on who I really was. The world became more open and accepting of diverse identities. It expanded the definition of the LGBTQ+ umbrella. I finally understood where I belonged. I accepted my place in the community that I long understood I belonged to.