Adulting, Independence

Adulting: Unperceived Maturity

As I continue this journey of independence as an autistic adult, It can be frustrating for me to try my best to be an adult when others that have known me prior to my independence see me as the person of my past and continue to think of me as my past self.

Adulting, Independence

Adulting: Being Responsible

When you move out of someone that takes care of all your needs, many times it requires you as an independent person to become responsible for being able to make sure every need you need to have met is met. Having additional challenges such as autism can make things like being independent realize the importance of following through with the things that you need to be responsible for on your own.

A Journal Entry, Acceptance and Awareness

Understanding Your Breaking Point

Today, for what I feel is one of the most genuine times ever, I recognized that I had my fill of irrational thoughts and negativity entering my head space. I also know that being in the environment that I was in that moment wasn't doing me any good, no matter how much I thought I… Continue reading Understanding Your Breaking Point

Acceptance and Awareness, Dignity & Respect, Independence

It Only Has to Make Sense to You

Part of being an independent person is that you have to be OK with the life choices that you make. It can be hard for those close to you to sometimes understand the things you once did while under the care of someone you no longer want to do, but that is because as an independent adult, you have the freedom to do as you choose for your own reasons.

Adulting, Independence

Adulting: Being A Good Sport

Throughout life, I have been taught not to counteract things that I may not agree with. In the self-advocacy movement, the view can always be conflicted with arguing or complaining to get what you want like a spoiled little brat. As I continue to grow older in life, I am learning that unless there is a significant need to speak up, which I can cautiously do, then it is best to be a good sport and go with what is moving forth.

COVID-19 Series, Reflections, Sleep

Reflections: Regognizing A Return

A few weeks ago, I made the opportunity to do some of the things before things changed drastically in my life in 2020. It felt good in a way, but I do know that I need to continue to work on things and get back to where they should be from years ago,

Adulting, Independence

Adulting: Knowing You’re Not Ready Yet

Being an autistic adult and knowing that after you try something and realizing that you are not ready to make that change on a consistent basis is something that can be hard to digest. It makes you feel guilty because you are being selfish, but then seeing all the things that happened over the past few years and even in the past few weeks makes me realize that it is Ok to accept that everything doesn’t go exactly to plan or fall back into place.

Penn Highlands Connellsville Hospital
Adulting, Dignity & Respect, Independence

Adulting: Navigating Negativity

Many times, those who do not know my whole life story approach me and say “you are such a positive person.” I acknowledge that but in reality, fighting the ability to remain positive can indeed be very challenging for me.

Carnegie Free Library Connellsville PA
Acceptance and Awareness, Autism Acceptance Month, Bullying, Dignity & Respect, Equality, Open Topic

It Doesn’t Cost Anything To Be Nice

Over the past weeks when being out and about, I have had to learn that regardless what someone ha cause me or what I personally feel about them, I musnt treat them differently because of that, I have to remember that they are just a person as much as I am and it doesn’t cost anything for me to be nice to them.

Olive Garden
Acceptance and Awareness, Autism Acceptance Month, Dignity & Respect, Education, Equality, Independence

Reflections: Accepting Autism

For the month of April and Autism Awareness / Acceptance Month, I have been writing on how the acceptance of the autistic community has increased in the 23 years since I received my diagnosis under the autism spectrum. This past week, I learned that even more acceptance has been seen, but yet we still have a ways to go.

West Yough Bride March 2022
Acceptance and Awareness, Adulting, Autism Acceptance Month, Dignity & Respect, Independence

Adulting: Accepting the Consequences of Your Behaviors

Over the decades I have heard that a perceived trait of autistic behavior is acting out inappropriate behavior to get what you want without accepting the consequences of said actions. While all autistics may have not had the ability to accept the fact that there indeed needs to be consequences for any wrong actions that complete, if not taught, it could lead to a very troubling adulthood in which can inflict gradually worse challenges if not instilled.

Laurel Highlands Hiking Trail Bridge
Acceptance and Awareness, Dignity & Respect, Equality, Reflections

Reflections: Why All Voices Are Important in Advocacy.

In recent years, there has been much divide between self-advocates and family members of autistics about the advocating for all autistics. Sometimes when either side is advocating for things that they are passionate about, it must be understood that it is their experience and that everyone experiences things differently as autism is indeed a spectrum disorder.

Laurel Run at the Gun Club
Acceptance and Awareness, Dignity & Respect, Healthy Lifestyle, Independence, Reflections

Reflections: Realizing Capacity

As part of experience, a recent journey of self-discovery and acceptance has made me realize the fact that I can only have the physical and mental capability to only withstand so much. I have begun to accept the fact that at times we cannot do what we intend or want to do and while being independent comes with a sense of responsibility, we must learn to properly balance our lives in order to maintain optimum wellness both mentally and physically.

The River in Winter 2019
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Special: A Journey of Personal Growth

Lately, I have been on a journey of acceptance, discovery, and growth. It has been astonishing in the past few months how far I have grown into a man and discovering that what I am feeling and what I need to do to be well is possible and acceptable. I can no longer live in shame about what I have to do to stay well and be who I want to be. 

Fallingwater in Spring
Adulting, Independence

Adulting: Managing Unpleasantness

As autistics, sometimes we hear things that we don’t care to hear like being told to do things we don’t want to do. For many years I would become a spoiled little brat and act out because these things were not the way that I wanted them to be. I had to learn that part of adulting is learning to accept the unpleasant and being able to tolerate those elements by using coping skills to manage their unpleasantness.

Inter-County Bridge
Dignity & Respect, Open Topic

Foundation of Supports and Getting What You Need

Sometimes as an autisitc person, I just want to not try to put an effort towards what I am doing. I have to say that if I didn’t have a multitude of support in my world, I probably would have ended in a long-term placement. While supports are good to have, they are not the answer to all your solutions and you must do the work too to your ability to show you can be a part of the solution.